Dear Victoria

By Victoria Howard

Dear Victoria,

I have been dating a man for the past 7 months. He is a 48 year mechanic, who is divorced and has 2 grown children.  He is a good-looking man, and is a perfect gentleman. He is very respectful and goes out of his way to please me, in every way.

The problem is that he earns an honest living; but not enough money for the lifestyle that I am used to.

My ex-husband was very wealthy.  I am accustomed to designer clothes and fancy trips. Jonathan, (my boyfriend) cannot keep me in the lifestyle I am familiar to. (My ex-husband left me for a woman who is twenty years younger than I am).

I have dated very weathy men since my divorce 5 years ago. But these men were all narcissists, who only cared about their money and themselves.

Am I being greedy and selfish? I am a 45 year old woman who realizes that time is flying by, and my chances of finding a husband like my ex, are slim and few.

Should I stay with Jonathan and change the lifestyle I am accustomed to; or look for a man who can keep me in the lifestyle I am used to?

Cynthia

Dear Cynthia,

First of all, I didn’t hear you say if you are in love with your boyfriend. Because if you are, there is the answer. If not, then I suggest you being fair and telling him what it is you are looking for, and letting him find someone that is happy with him.

You can’t have your cake and eat it too. Jonathan sounds like a wonderful person who is a real man—a hard working and respectful man. He deserves a woman who accepts him for who he is.

It is hard to change a lifestyle you have become accustomed to. But from personal experience, money doesn’t make you happy.

It is a necessity and a luxury, and nice to have. But some of the wealthiest people I know, are the unhappiest and loneliest.
My opinion—Jonathan is a keeper!