Dear Victoria

By Victoria Howard

Dear Victoria,

I have been married to a wonderful man for the past thirty years. Jon and I were married out of college and have raised two wonderful children . He has always been a good provider and a good father.

Last year when Jon turned fifty, he turned into someone I don’t know. He goes out with his buddies every weekend; dyes his hair; dresses like a twenty-year old, and just bought himself a new convertible.

I don’t think he is being unfaithful (although our once passionate sex life, has dwindled down to ‘quickies’ now and then).

What should I do; beg him to go back the way he was, or ignore it and hope it’s just a passing fad?

Mrs. Jekyl and Hyde

Dear Mrs. Jekyl and Hyde,

First of all, thousands of men (and women) go through what is known as a mid-life crisis. They hit the age of fifty , or thereabouts, and ‘go wild’.

It can happen for different reasons, such as: ‘the empty nest syndrome’ (children leave home); feels like time is running out, and must experience new things; or maybe even because they are trying to re-capture their youth.

Regardless, going through menopause (male or female) can be very detrimental to a marriage or relationship. I suggest telling your husband how you feel and ask that you go to a marriage counselor—together—before it’s too late.

Good luck,

Victoria