Dear Victoria

By Victoria Howard

Dear Victoria, 

I am writing you because I am worried about my mother. My mom has been divorced since I was five years old (I am now fifteen) and we have always been very close.

She is a single mother who works two jobs to give me everything I want and need. In the day, she works a reputable job, and at night she is a bartender at a local club.

Since she took the job as a bartender, she has changed. She got breast implants, wears wild and sexy clothes, and started drinking.

I recently found out that she has been dating an eighteen-year-old bouncer at the club.

I am worried about her, but don’t know what to do. I have no family to talk to, and am afraid of what might happen if she continues this wild lifestyle.

Please tell me what I should do.

A concerned son

Dear concerned son,

Being a single mother is a very tasking job in itself. There are thousands of women who take on a second job, just to support their family.

I’m sure your mother loves you, and wants the best for you. The problem is that sometimes the choice of a job might not be what you or she would like, but the money is too good to pass up.

My only concern is her drinking and dating a ‘boy’ who is almost your age. If there is no family member that can talk to her, I suggest asking the counselor in your school or church to speak to her.

Sometimes getting someone to intervene that is not directly involved, is better than a relative or a friend.

I’m sure your mom will realize that what she is doing with this ‘boy toy’ is a recipe for disaster.